“This book offers a revolutionary new way to see and shape love relationships. The stories, new ideas, and exercises offered in Hold Me Tight are based on the new science of love and the wisdom of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT), an effective new model developed by Dr. Johnson.
EFT is a short-term, structured approach to marital and couples therapy. Empirical research has supported the effectiveness of EFT, showing that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and about 90% show significant improvements (the best results of any couple therapy), and evidence shows that these positive effects last over time. Currently, EFT is being used with diverse couples from various cultures around the world in private practice, university training centers, and hospital clinics.”- by Dr. Sue Johnson
I believe, the first question that comes up to one’s mind is: Is this another Dr. Phil book? An attempt to supposedly provide an answer to everything and in reality is it all just for sales and making money?
The Answer is: NO
I started reading this book with very low expectations. Having a Masters in Child Psychology myself, I always like to read around and shop through various forms of new development in the field.
Dr. Johnson begins with explaining how she discovered E.F.T, Emotional Focused Therapy. It all begins as her thesis and then ignites her career in helping couples in need.
A pen handy will help you through taking notes on sections that describe how you should react when a particular habit happens that causes conflict in the household. Her explanation of the circle of reoccurring events due to our ongoing incorrect patterns, I believe is a classic number and works wonders when it is dealt with.
I most lovingly adore the part where she explains how in the past, people’s emotional needs were fulfilled by a whole village and now, in the 21st century, we demand the same need, from our loved one. Of course, one person cannot replace the need for so many, and that is just the beginning of this amazing, eye-opening book.
The emotional responsiveness towards the needs of our loved one is another excellent approach in trying to listen and understand before we jump to conclusions. The fact that everything we know is to be wrong was another reason for loving this book.
You get to read through 7 conversations. Each one explains a scenario and its solution. Not all may fit the usual norm and or some may meet a couple, however, I don’t believe that Dr. Sue Johnson intended it to fall under everyone’s radar.
The point of the book is for the reader to take home an overall understanding of how E.F.T method can change a conflicted relationship and fix the problem to its core.
I highly recommend this book to anyone that likes to read about human interactions, psychology field lovers and of course anyone that is in a conflicted relationship and does not want to pay high fees by going to a therapist.
Written by Jeyran Main