She Called Me Throwaway – by Shama Shams (Book Review #1833)

“She Called Me Throwaway” by Shama Shams is a deeply affecting memoir that navigates the turbulent waters of a childhood marred by abuse, a nation’s political upheaval, and the enduring quest for healing and self-acceptance. Born in Bangladesh during a time of immense turmoil and societal violence, Shama’s early life was shaped by the contrasting love of her father and the neglect of her mother, setting the stage for a narrative filled with poignant contradictions and struggles.

The memoir gains its emotional depth from Shama’s experiences living in a religious compound after her father’s forced departure to the United States. Under the tyrannical rule of a heartless leader, Shama endured unimaginable horrors that no child should ever face. The detailed recounting of her physical, mental, and sexual abuse is harrowing yet necessary, offering readers a glimpse into the darkest corners of human capability and the indomitable spirit required to survive them.

Shams writes with a raw honesty that is both devastating and inspiring. Her journey from the depths of despair in Bangladesh to the precarious promise of a new life in the U.S. is a testament to her resilience. Yet, this new beginning was not without its trials. The silence imposed upon her by her grandmother’s vow of secrecy became a heavy burden, complicating her adjustment to a new country and concealing wounds that refused to heal in the shadows.

The narrative is not just a recounting of past traumas but also a profound exploration of the long-term effects of abuse on one’s sense of self and the painstaking journey toward recovery. Shams delves into the complexities of shame and guilt that accompany survivors of sexual abuse, offering an intimate look at the internal battles that continue long after the external threats have subsided.

“She Called Me Throwaway” is more than a memoir; it is an act of courage. In choosing to share her story, Shams breaks the silence that once threatened to define her, transforming her experiences into a beacon of hope for others. Her readiness to confront her past, challenge the taboos surrounding abuse, and embrace her truth is a powerful declaration of strength and self-empowerment.

This memoir is a vital read for anyone seeking to understand the profound impact of childhood trauma and the capacity for resilience in the face of overwhelming adversity. Shama Shams has crafted a narrative that is as enlightening as it is emotional, offering a raw, unflinching look at survival, the complexities of familial bonds, and the redemptive power of speaking one’s truth. “She Called Me Throwaway” is a heartrending odyssey through darkness into light, showcasing the transformative power of resilience and the unyielding courage required to forge a path toward healing and acceptance.

Written by Jeyran Main

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